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Post by Urumii-Previously ThePresident on Apr 24, 2008 11:08:23 GMT -5
If you found out your girlfriend has been cheating on you for the last 6 months, what would you guys do?
This just happened to me. And I... idk... it sucks.....
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Post by Death's Shadow on Apr 24, 2008 11:16:00 GMT -5
I would dump her like yesterdays trash..
Sorry to hear this happened to ya.
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Post by YOUR_DADDY on Apr 24, 2008 11:50:00 GMT -5
I agree with Death, I would dump her in a minute.
Even if you did try to work things out and she agreed that this was a one time fling, would you ever TRUST her again? I think not. I have been married for 33 years and if I found out my wife was cheating on me, she would be my ex-wife.
Sorry to here the bad news. Keep your chin up
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Post by Urumii-Previously ThePresident on Apr 24, 2008 12:18:15 GMT -5
Well, thats what I did. But its the hardest thing I've ever done. I loved her as much as I could possibly have loved her. My whole life was planned around being with her. I was setting things up so we could move in together in a year, and start on a pace to graduate college.
But she had other plans. She cheated on me with my BEST friend, actually literally my only friend. And 3 of her ex's, and 5 more random guys. So You guys are really the only people I have to talk to. I've been trying to look up some of my old friends, but they are nowhere to be found.
Thanks for the condolences. (huh... I spelled that right)
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Post by vinsanity on Apr 24, 2008 15:10:02 GMT -5
I would agree with the others. When you have been the victim of such mistrust and betrayal, the only sensible thing to do is to end the relationship and move on.
Besides, at 19 you should not be so serious with any one woman anyway. I made the mistate of doing the same thing. I married my first wife at 22 after dating 5 years. It was a mistake. When we both grew up we were not compatible.
I say have fun, date LOTS of women and make no promises that you cant or wont keep to any of them. The right one will come along after you are out of school.
As to the issue of having friends, you get out of relationships what you put into them. You will make new friends in time. Where are your old friends? Could it be that they have moved on after you kind of dumped them after hooking up with this girl? My 20 year old kid does that. Every time he meets a girl he dumps all of his friends to be with only her. By the time it ends with her, the friends are gone and he has to start all over. He still hasn't learned that you can have a relationship AND have friends.
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Post by Marauder(CDN) on Apr 24, 2008 15:21:34 GMT -5
but sometimes it does work out..I started dating my wife when she was 16..I was 18..I did have some crazy and wild times but it all worked out..23 yrs later we are here. But as for you Pres..sorry to hear that..that is like a hard kick to the cahoonas.
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Post by vinsanity on Apr 24, 2008 15:39:54 GMT -5
Sometimes it does indeed work, but not the majority of the time.
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Post by Killer_Monkey on Apr 24, 2008 16:31:29 GMT -5
LOL that is why I haven't started dating...whats the point if you get married now? I want to be free and have fun with my friends...unless I find a REALLY great guy then I might date him....anyway
sorry prez....play a little moh and move on
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Post by Urumii-Previously ThePresident on Apr 24, 2008 19:10:54 GMT -5
I really thought this was the person for me. We seemed to get along so well. We were friends for a year or so before going out, and had been going out for a year. So I felt like we really knew each other, and were gonna work. As for my friend. He has been my friend since third grade (10 years or so). And we still hung out once or twice a week (i only saw my girlfriend as much). She lived 40 miles away and I work and she has school. So It wasn't like I ignored him or something... idk what happened with him. I was cheated on by the two people I cared most about.
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Post by RedRock on Apr 24, 2008 19:46:18 GMT -5
Wow. The pain. I feel for you. But, it will get better. A second love will not be the same, but it can be just as good or even better, and the experience of the first major love often makes the second one more mature and fulfilling. In the meantime, the sudden "freedom" makes for a good excuse to meet new friends, revisit an old hobby, finish an education, etc. Best wishes.
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Post by Urumii-Previously ThePresident on Apr 24, 2008 20:10:45 GMT -5
I'm starting to do more complete research into what I want to go to college for. Make sure of what I REALLY want to do, and the best way to pursue it. Exploring possible scholarships, grants, etc also. It sucks... so I'm just trying to keep busy. Would be easier if I was working too... but I'm still on disability.  |
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Post by Death's Shadow on Apr 25, 2008 0:35:32 GMT -5
Remember it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
It sux right at this moment but the pain will fade with time. At some point you will find someone to share you life with, and I found that it happens when your least expecting it too. This pain will fade to a distant memory.
Keep your chin up guy. Most of us have been there. The world still goes round and life goes on.
And good luck with the disability.. I am also sitting at home on the injured reserved list.
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Post by a Silly Person on Apr 25, 2008 2:06:01 GMT -5
Keep your head up Prez. You did the right thing. A few little tidbits of info or advice: The best relationship that you can find, is not one you are looking for, but one that finds you. In other words, no one should be looking for a relationship, they will just end up settling for some one that seems like the right type. I am not saying that you did this, I just know that it happened to me and it happens a lot. Never let a relationship confuse you by making you think that the other person makes you feel complete. If you are not feeling like a complete and whole person, and you feel that there is something missing, there is, but you will only find it within yourself. You need to be happy and comfortable with who you are. If you are not, you will be nothing but a burden to whom ever you are with. If we don't know what we really want out of life, how can we possibly know who we should be sharing our life with? Honesty and Trust are positively the most important virtues in any friendship or relationship. Sorry doesn't cut it if you can't trust them not to do it again. Relationships are never easy to end and I really feel for you. I wish you good luck Prez, even though I feel pretty strongly that you will prevail.  |
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Post by vinsanity on Apr 25, 2008 9:13:14 GMT -5
... such warm and fuzzy advice... I may have to go cry now |
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Post by popeye on Apr 25, 2008 11:20:36 GMT -5
the sweetest girl i ever kissed was another-man's wife! MY MOM!.....................
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